All too often we criticise, get on our high horse and shout out about everything, like when someone gives you a job to do when you think it should be their responsibility, or your friend starts going out with someone you don't like, or when someone is holding up the traffic, or when its raining and then everything is just rubbish. But it's just all bitching and moaning and gossiping. And that can be far more hurtful than people realise, it brings people right down and it breaks relationships.
So you need to lift people up instead, and that might lift the whole nation up and make the sunshine. Just maybe. The best way to lift people is to say nice things - to give lots of compliments. It's really quite simple. Meet a person - what can you say nice about their outfit? Or their hair? Their bracelet? And BANG, that's one compliment already heading someones way before pleasantries are even over.
And then someone makes you a drink, you like - say well done, that's a lovely cup of tea. Or someone write you a beautiful letter - tell them how grateful you were for it. Even something so small like how someone just walkas around with a smile and a spring in their step. Or as I like to do from time to time, a "Joey Jump". If you like what someone does, they'll love to know you do.
Set a target of 5 compliments to give out a day. That's a tiny tiny almost criminally too small amount of compliments to give when you think of the number of people you probably see in a day. But it's a chance to make 5 people have a brilliant day instead of a bad one, which is something pretty special.
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